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Somebody Else’s Guy

By on April 5, 2014

‘Anonymously Yours” …if you’re not telling we’re not asking.

I remember this song ‘Somebody Elses Guy’ by Jocelyn Brown, from that era of the ‘Golden Oldies’, (not sure music will ever be like that again), but I digress. As I said I remember this song, lovely beat .. the lyrics

I can’t get off my high horse
I can’t let you go
You are the one that makes me feel so real
What am I supposed to do when I’m hooked so on you
Then I realise
That you’re somebody else’s guy

Okay now, … sensitive one I know

This week we’re asking…

What do you think about the ‘Other’ woman?

A victim of circumstance?

Just ‘in love’ with the wrong guy? (though in many parts of the world in the words of the American rapper Kanye West, they don’t seem to be “messing with no broke n*****s”)

An option you’d consider… or not?

The pros; The cons?

Are you currently the ‘Other’ woman, if so what has been your experience, would you recommend it to your sister, best friend… would you like to break it off but your personal circumstances won’t let you?

Have at it. Remember its anonymous, so let loose. ‘Anonymously Yours” …if you’re not telling we’re not asking, your name, email or details.



  1. chieve

    September 5, 2014 at 3:21 PM

    Let me add, I think being the other woman isn’t cool and will never be. There are no pros as far as I’ve experienced and I wouldn’t advice anyone to be in that position. I never prayed to be in that state. Somehow, I have found myself there. I have always been good at supressing my emotions but this time, I don’t know why I couldn’t help it. No one should judge the ‘other woman’. For me, I know I will let go with time because I’m trying to break it off.I’m not proud of it.

  2. chieve

    September 5, 2014 at 3:07 PM

    I clicked to read this because it’s what I’m going through right now. I’ve been single for sometime now until I enrolled in a fitness class and started feeling drawn to the instructor. I tried so hard to hide it not knowing he was going through the same thing. Eventually, we had a long talk and he told me he was in a relationship and couldn’t hurt his girl. I told him I didn’t want to be tagged a ‘boyfriend snatcher’ either. We agreed to stay as just friends and avoid places that could lead to some physical thing. Somehow,we started seeing each other,have had some intimate moments(long hugs & kisses) though no sex yet. We talk a lot. I’m happy when I’m with him and he tells me same. The other day I accompanied him to see his friend,he told his friend he was still with his girlfriend and that was where his heart lay. My mood changed instantly. It hurt so bad.I know I’m playing the “other woman”. I was at his house sometime ago and his girlfriend called to say she was coming over and I had to leave. Right now, I travelled out of town and when we talk,he tells me he misses me so much. I do miss him too but I deliberately go some days without calling him because I’m trying to find my way out of this “emotional brouhaha” just the way I subtlely found myself in it. So yeah… I’m in love with someone else’s guy.

    • Phoenix

      September 12, 2014 at 12:02 PM

      Dear Chieve

      Thank you so much for sharing such a personal story with TemptTations. There isn’t much else to say as I believe you have made the right decision in deciding that you are going to let go of this relationship. Affairs of the heart are never easy but my advice to you is to stick to your guns.
      I don’t know what your background is but I know that you are of great worth in the eyes of God and that He has someone out there for you that will put YOU first.
      You have said ” I know I will let go with time because I’m trying to break it off”.The only advice i will give you is that is you try and make a clean break, the longer you stretch it out the more difficult it will be to let go.
      Change your phone number if possible
      Delete his phone number from your phone
      Think about how you would feel if the shoe were on the other foot and you were the one being cheated on
      Think about how you would feel if it were your sister, cousin friend etc being cheated on
      I hope this helps. Let me know how you get on

  3. Adesewa Tosin

    September 5, 2014 at 1:18 AM

    This is exactly what i’m going through now. But i dont know there is someone else until lately. I need advice

    • Phoenix

      September 5, 2014 at 1:24 AM

      Hello Tosin,
      Write in to and give some more details. You can change the names of the parties involved and some of the details if it makes you more comfortable an we’ll be in touch.

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