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Don’t Be Fooled By the Rocks That I Got….

By on September 10, 2014

I read an article in a British newspaper the other day about a certain celebrity whose…wife and 2 children, girls, under 10 stepped out carrying handbags collectively worth £5,800. This celebrity is a professional and earns a little over a £100,000 a week.

It brought to mind a series of discussions I’d had with my 16 going on 26 year old daughter over the Half-Term concerning whether she should be allowed to borrow mummy’s things all the time, some of the time, only on special occasions or just plain never. In her favourite words, when she asks, if I say no, “But why Mummy? it’s not fair”.

Now I’m definitely not (yet) in the £100,000 a week category…(yet), but Im not chopped liver either.
By the grace of God I do have quite a few nice pieces, a quilted Chanel, python-skin Louboutin, and Celine here, and some rocks and rock studded high-end watches there.

“The question is, and I’m asking all of us; when is it ok for our girls to wear our stuff. Is there some kind of written or unwritten code or index that determines when they can or can’t, at what age they should or should never start doing so, 13, 16, 21″?

…more to the point is there a price range, “Oh yes Montana you can definitely wear the high heels with the chipped heel that I got at a bargain price from **** but definitely not the £1,700 pointy-python-skin Loubies from Sloane Street; “Yes to the oversized tote I bought for £15.00 in the sale last Summer but no to the Celine tote that looks exactly the same, was £3,500, and yes, I know I don’t tote it around any more because I’ve bought 2 more since then and its now sitting at the back of my wardrobe”.

To take it a bit further, what if Mummy dearest only has the high-end things, does that ban baby girl from ever borrowing Mummy’s things, does it mean that Mummy just has to keep buying her the things that fit within her price range (whatever that is? we haven’t identified it yet). till she gets to the ‘right’ age (we haven’t identified that yet either). What exactly is the rule here?

I really can’t say I know, but if I were to attempt to answer, I would say that as mothers, grandmothers and mothers-to-be, let us do everything within our power to bring up young women who are beautiful inside and out.
Stylish, elegant and appropriately dressed for every occasion on the outside, but kind, compassionate, loving, giving and patient on the inside; able to dress themselves with a lot, but also able to put themselves together with a little.
Women who derive their self-worth not just from the value of what they own or what they have on, but from loftier and more lasting ideals. Women who judge themselves not by the price of a shoe, a bag, a watch or a bauble that changes from season to season, but from things that last, integrity, loyalty, strength of character and steadfastness.


One Comment

  1. Ayo Eagles

    September 10, 2014 at 8:41 PM

    Yadera, this is nice. I believe that kids should be dressed to look elegant. But they should not be exposed to extravagant things yet so that they will appreciate the dignity of labour more. When they start working, then we can encourage them with these ‘very valuable’ things. Also, the attitude should be watched. A kid who is getting excessively vain shoud be discouraged by being ‘cut to her size.’ Finally, inner beauty should be encouraged more.

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