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By on April 21, 2014

The question is, and I’m asking all of us; when is it ok for our girls to wear our stuff. Is there some kind of written or unwritten code or index that determines

I read an article in a British newspaper the other day about a certain celebrity whose wife and 2 children, girls, under 10 stepped out carrying handbags collectively worth approximately £5,800. This celebrity is a professional and earns a little over a £100,000 a week.

It brought to mind a series of discussions I’d had with my 16 going on 26 year old daughter over the Half-Term concerning whether she should be allowed to ‘borrow’ mummy’s things all the time, some of the time, only on special occasions or just plain never.
In her favourite words, when she asks and I say no, “But why Mummy? it’s not fair”.

Now I’m definitely not (yet) in the £100,000 a week category but Im not chopped liver either. By the grace of God I do have quite a few nice pieces, a quilted Chanel, python-skin Louboutin and Celine here and some rocks and rock studded high-end watches there.
The question is, and I’m asking all of us; when is it ok for our girls to wear our stuff?
Is there some kind of written or unwritten code or index that determines when they can or can’t; at what age they should, or should never start doing so, 13, 16, 21?
More to the point is there a price range, “Oh yes cutie you can definitely wear the high heels with the chipped heel that I got at a bargain price from **** but definitely not the £1,700 pointy python-skin Loubies from Sloane Street; “Yes to the oversized tote I bought for £15.00 in the sale last Summer, but no to the Celine tote that looks just the same, was £3,500, and yes, I know I don’t tote it around any more because I’ve bought 2 more since then and its now sitting at the back of my wardrobe”.

To take it a bit further, what if Mummy dearest only has the high-end things, does that ban baby girl from ever borrowing Mummy’s things, does it mean that Mummy just has to keep buying her the things that fit within her price range (whatever that is, we haven’t identified it yet), till she gets to the ‘right’ age (we haven’t identified that yet either).
What exactly is the rule here?

I really can’t say I know, but if I were to attempt an answer, I would say that as mothers, grandmothers and mothers-to-be, let us do everything within our power to bring up young women who are beautiful inside and out.
Stylish, elegant and appropriately dressed for every occasion on the outside, but kind, compassionate, loving, giving, kind and patient on the inside; able to dress themselves with a lot but also able to put themselves together with a little.
Women who derive their self-worth not just from the value of what they own or what they have on, but from loftier and more lasting ideals. Women who judge themselves not from the price tag on a shoe, a bag, a watch or a bauble that changes from season to season, but from things that last, integrity, loyalty, strength of character and steadfastness.

My take on this but comments please


One Comment

  1. Anonymous

    April 21, 2014 at 2:37 PM

    This is a tough one… you don’t want them wearing stuff that is too expensive, as it may creat the wrong impression about life to them …don’t they need to know that they need to work hard to own such things?

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