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7 Steps To Dealing With Sentimental Clutter

By on February 3, 2015
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How many of us have boxes of unsorted photos in the corners of our homes? How many of us struggle with the desire to preserve each painting, Popsicle-stick creation, and pinch pot cranked out by our kids? You’re not alone in the desire to hang on to objects with emotional value, but breaking free can be quite rewarding.

Julie Holland, M.D., an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at New York University School of Medicine, assures us that the urge to hold on to meaningful possessions is normal. “Sentimental clutter is the adult equivalent of a teddy bear,” she says. Organizing consultant Ellen Madere, says it’s about working with the emotional aspects of the process, not against them. Here are her steps for conquering the challenge.

It’s hard enough to purge junk, let alone boxes loaded with memories. When you’re stuck about whether to keep or divest, ask yourself: What’s significant about this object? Does it have genuine, lasting emotional value? Do I like it enough to display it, or will it be in a box forever? Would it be more valuable to someone else? Here, seven steps to understanding what—and how—to let go.

Step 1: Box It Up
Don’t let fate (or a leaky basement) determine what you save and what you don’t. Even if you’re not ready to purge, “put things in ‘question boxes,’ label them, and stash them somewhere safe and dry,” says Madere.
If you happen upon obvious junk, toss it and pat yourself on the back.
For some, the next step is to let a bit of time pass. “If you’re in a tender emotional state,” says Madere, “grieving because of a death, downsizing into a smaller home, or in an empty-nest situation, it’s best to wait about six months before sorting through anything difficult.”

Step 2: Enlist Help, If You Need It
Just make sure it’s the right kind of help. Do you need someone warm and fuzzy because the work would be unbearable alone? Or do you want a tech-savvy whip-cracker who can post images of your sellables on eBay while getting your nose out of that old diary? “Sometimes it’s just company—it’s nice to have another body in the room to bounce ideas off of,” says Madere.

Step 3: Work in Short Intervals
Going through emotionally loaded items can make you feel depleted, so limit work sessions to three or four hours. If you’re convinced that you can turn your home into a clutter-free paradise in one 12-hour blitz, this rule will be tough to follow. But a fresh, rested mind will help you make smart decisions and avoid Purger’s Regret.
When you’re stuck about whether to keep or divest, ask yourself: What’s significant about this object? Does it have genuine, lasting emotional value? Do I like it enough to display it, or will it be in a box forever? Would it be more valuable to someone else?

Step 4: Take a Picture (It Lasts Longer)
Admittedly, a digital image is not the thing itself. There’s no tactile joy to it. But storing something on a computer doesn’t just save space; it also minimizes risk from a preservationist standpoint. “Even with archival paper and plastic sleeves, physical objects can fade or get lost,” says Madere.
You can ship off old snapshots and have them converted to digital form by services like gophoto.com. You might also want to photograph meaningful items before letting them go. And if you’re clearing a whole house after, for example, the loss of a loved one, Madere suggests taking pictures of the rooms first, or asking a friend to, if the task is too emotional. “You can make lovely books at blurb.com to preserve the memories in a form you can hold,” says Madere.

Which brings us nicely to every parent’s bugaboo: children’s artwork. The art writer Casey Ellis (brilliantly) suggested that I tell my kids I was creating a catalogue raisonné of their work. This is a fancy term for a complete list of an artist’s output.
It sounds impressive, and it means that the original pieces, after being scanned or photographed, can be farmed out to collectors (a.k.a. Grandma) or recycled. Their memories live on in my Flickr pages, to be admired at the kids’ leisure. (So far, that means never.)

Step 5: Save the Best—Toss the Rest
Meaning, keep one to represent many. Madere points out that there are some things that we’re inclined to hang on to in bulk, when a sample might be more powerful. “Sometimes clients will say, ‘I can’t throw that out—it’s a card my mother gave me!’ But it might be a boring card signed ‘M.’ Instead, save a letter and toss that card,” says Madere.
The same principle can help you winnow down a collection. Let’s say you have a load of inherited teapots. Pick a favorite that you would most want to see on a shelf in your home.

Step 6 : Give Things a New Home
It’s easier to part with beloved objects if you can later envision them being used by others, says Madere. Just be careful and considerate when you distribute.

Of course, not everything can be given to friends or family. Often one person’s junk is—let’s face it—another person’s junk. So ask whether items are really wanted before you hand them off. If you get that “Oh, please no” look, donate the belongings instead.
There are national organizations that would be grateful for your stuff, “but even better is giving where you live, for use in your own community,” says Madere. If you’re not sure where to give, a Google search of your ZIP code and the type of facility you would like to donate to should yield options.

Step 7 : Know Your ABC’s (Always Be Clearing)
Your relationship to sentimental items will probably change over time. “Give yourself permission to get rid of things you once cherished,” says Madere. Every year or so, take a hard look at what you’ve kept in the name of love, and toss or donate anything that’s become more of a burden than a sweet-memory trigger. “Distance gives you fresh perspective,” says Madere.

So what happens to sentimental items that make the cut? Madere advocates bringing them into your day-to-day life. “If it’s a stack of dishes that mean a lot to you, give them space in your kitchen and box up your own for donation,” she says. For less practical treasures, like mementos of a loved one, find a small cabinet and tuck them inside. Unlike a box in the attic, this setup invites spontaneous reminiscing.

How do you deal with your clutter? Let us Know below.

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